Friday, February 19, 2010

Bad Behaviors and Accountability - a musing on Tiger Woods

So, I have to say, I TRIED to watch Tiger's apology to the world this morning, and I just couldn't stomach it. I readily admit I have an addictive type personality and I've had my moments where I've had to contend with it.

As an adult, I fully accept responsibility for anything I've done on this planet. Not once have I blamed ANYONE or ANYTHING for any of my behavior or choices made on this planet! And I will back that up by saying that it took a good counsellor several years ago to tell me I was not "responsible". She was right, I blamed everybody but myself for what was going on at the time, and it was only when I took that good hard look at myself that I started taking steps to becoming the woman I am today. I gave myself one more really hard lesson after the counselling sessions, but again, I am all the stronger and that much more accountable/responsible because of it.

The finally oiled machine that is Tiger Woods stepped up to the plate and failed to deliver. I commend him for setting the record straight and sticking up for his family, for that I give him a round of applause, but as for the rest, really?! I actually found myself changing the channel about two-thirds of the way through because I just couldn't stomach it anymore. Why is that? I think it's because I have looked people straight in the face and said, "this is what I did, and I'm not proud", and now have the ability to say "what a learning lesson I gave myself". There is shame that is associated with bad behavior and the ability to look someone in the eye and tell your story. Not ONCE was there a level of shame shown by Tiger that is necessary to be responsible for one's actions. I would like to say that maybe, just "maybe" they had to medicate him in order to make it through his session, but that is only a conjecture on my part.

I will say I truly do feel sorry for Tiger's wife and children. They didn't ask for this. Bad behaviors are never easy to deal with, and I couldn't imagine being involved with someone in the limelight who was supposed to lead by example.......and didn't.