Well didn't that summer fly by in all of its craziness!! I, too, was not immune to the great big Universal push of, "You will sit in your 'work' and rid yourself of the past trauma and drama whether you like it or not".
And on the heels of that, I have decided to hand some "tough love" out to the males of this planet (and those females that are more masculine than feminine). I have seen too many relationships fall by the wayside (and let me tell you mine came close so this is NOT a 'do as I say, not as I do' moment. I was in it myself.
Please take in that this is not "man bashing". Rather, see it as the fact that I love you all enough to show you the way to complete and utter happiness within the state of your relationship.
There are too many boys running around in men's clothing. And, quite frankly, us ladies have had enough. We are tired of being emotionally neglected and tired of seeing you walk around with the burden of any past woes that are long gone and over, resting firmly on your shoulders.
It is time to become the "thinking and feeling" man that today's woman requires. It is time to own that you, too, are feeling beings who have the right to express themselves. Because listen, it is NEVER about the person, it is ALWAYS about the behavior.
No relationship is ever perfect, (what??!!), but we all have the right to committed and nurturing relationships. Yes, I look at my own shit first before I point the finger at somebody else's so don't think I am getting high and mighty here. Because therein lies the problem that we haven't given you guys the opportunity to embrace.
WE are feeling beings who are very emotionally aware and we are trying to bring out the best in you. Who cares what your mother, father or neighbor did or didn't do. Who cares who hurt you in high school, and who gives a flying fuck whether you want to do something or not. We are BEGGING to be connected in the deepest way possible. A heartfelt connection. One that means that you take a good look at your behaviors, see what is or isn't working, how you may be getting in your own road, and what it takes to heal the emotional traumas and dramas of your past.
We have fatherless sons and daughters walking around creating more fatherless sons and daughters. We have little girls begging for affection from their dads (and yes there are mom's out there like this too), but the majority of the grief being caused is by women who have "grown up" and their men who haven't.
So to you males walking around in your hurt and refusing to reach for the stars and grow, grow, grow, don't you deserve a better life? We think you do and that's why us ladies are all getting so fed up. For those that were never shown the way a man should "lead" his household, it looks something like this.
1) Your partner deserves a date. At LEAST once a week.
2) We work just as much, and sometimes more, than you do. We typically manage the kids, the house, and a full-time job. So do yourself a favor, and start adding the little list of things that you will do to say, "I'm committed". Pick up your socks and put them in the laundry basket, fold your own laundry, and go the extra mile. If you see the washer cycle completed, do your partner a favor and slide it over to the dryer with a fabric sheet would you. I'm basically telling you to beat us to the punch. (Insert I don't care if you make more money than she does, if she is working the same amount of hours she is working just like you are.) Some of us house illness also. I, personally do, and while I don't expect anyone to coddle me through a rough day, consider that some of us may walk around in constant pain and could use a "leg up" once in awhile.
3) If you have kids, take time once a week and have some individual time with each of them. All it takes is an hour or two, and you will notice a difference in your children.
4) Always look in the mirror. Could you have handled something a different way? Could you have "done better"? Is there something hurting you deep down and you have been afraid to let it out? Drop the shackles of the caveman and move into your heart. It's where you'll find us.
5) Be devoted to investing time in yourself.
6) Don't take things personally when we are "beating you up". Use it as fuel for change. We love you, we are just asking for more from you now. It is about leveling the playing field.
7) Get involved with the Universe. The Other Side really exists. It's up to you to test the waters.
We are tired of being "mothers" in our relationships. And I know that some of you fellows out there have been turned into "daddy's". Trust me that's the fastest way to take the sizzle out of ANY relationship.
All of us deserve better from each other. PERIOD. We can't do it running around in the wounds of our past. These times call for "better" from each and every one of us.
So, I say this, kudos to each and every male out there that is a "stand up" guy. The one that does what he says he will do, the ones that sit for hours and let their daughters paint their nails or their sons build railroad tracks (or paint their nails too for all I care), and the ones who have owned their "manship".
For those that have made the choice to "dig deep" for a change, I applaud you. I cannot THANK YOU enough!
(Insert thank you darling husband for the AMAZING leaps and bounds you have made in your own life. I LOVE YOU with all my heart and I am so glad I get to enjoy this ride with you!)
It's time for each and every one of us to "grow up" now. The Universe is begging us. And, if we do, nothing shy of miracles start to occur.....
And on the heels of that, I have decided to hand some "tough love" out to the males of this planet (and those females that are more masculine than feminine). I have seen too many relationships fall by the wayside (and let me tell you mine came close so this is NOT a 'do as I say, not as I do' moment. I was in it myself.
Please take in that this is not "man bashing". Rather, see it as the fact that I love you all enough to show you the way to complete and utter happiness within the state of your relationship.
There are too many boys running around in men's clothing. And, quite frankly, us ladies have had enough. We are tired of being emotionally neglected and tired of seeing you walk around with the burden of any past woes that are long gone and over, resting firmly on your shoulders.
It is time to become the "thinking and feeling" man that today's woman requires. It is time to own that you, too, are feeling beings who have the right to express themselves. Because listen, it is NEVER about the person, it is ALWAYS about the behavior.
No relationship is ever perfect, (what??!!), but we all have the right to committed and nurturing relationships. Yes, I look at my own shit first before I point the finger at somebody else's so don't think I am getting high and mighty here. Because therein lies the problem that we haven't given you guys the opportunity to embrace.
WE are feeling beings who are very emotionally aware and we are trying to bring out the best in you. Who cares what your mother, father or neighbor did or didn't do. Who cares who hurt you in high school, and who gives a flying fuck whether you want to do something or not. We are BEGGING to be connected in the deepest way possible. A heartfelt connection. One that means that you take a good look at your behaviors, see what is or isn't working, how you may be getting in your own road, and what it takes to heal the emotional traumas and dramas of your past.
We have fatherless sons and daughters walking around creating more fatherless sons and daughters. We have little girls begging for affection from their dads (and yes there are mom's out there like this too), but the majority of the grief being caused is by women who have "grown up" and their men who haven't.
So to you males walking around in your hurt and refusing to reach for the stars and grow, grow, grow, don't you deserve a better life? We think you do and that's why us ladies are all getting so fed up. For those that were never shown the way a man should "lead" his household, it looks something like this.
1) Your partner deserves a date. At LEAST once a week.
2) We work just as much, and sometimes more, than you do. We typically manage the kids, the house, and a full-time job. So do yourself a favor, and start adding the little list of things that you will do to say, "I'm committed". Pick up your socks and put them in the laundry basket, fold your own laundry, and go the extra mile. If you see the washer cycle completed, do your partner a favor and slide it over to the dryer with a fabric sheet would you. I'm basically telling you to beat us to the punch. (Insert I don't care if you make more money than she does, if she is working the same amount of hours she is working just like you are.) Some of us house illness also. I, personally do, and while I don't expect anyone to coddle me through a rough day, consider that some of us may walk around in constant pain and could use a "leg up" once in awhile.
3) If you have kids, take time once a week and have some individual time with each of them. All it takes is an hour or two, and you will notice a difference in your children.
4) Always look in the mirror. Could you have handled something a different way? Could you have "done better"? Is there something hurting you deep down and you have been afraid to let it out? Drop the shackles of the caveman and move into your heart. It's where you'll find us.
5) Be devoted to investing time in yourself.
6) Don't take things personally when we are "beating you up". Use it as fuel for change. We love you, we are just asking for more from you now. It is about leveling the playing field.
7) Get involved with the Universe. The Other Side really exists. It's up to you to test the waters.
We are tired of being "mothers" in our relationships. And I know that some of you fellows out there have been turned into "daddy's". Trust me that's the fastest way to take the sizzle out of ANY relationship.
All of us deserve better from each other. PERIOD. We can't do it running around in the wounds of our past. These times call for "better" from each and every one of us.
So, I say this, kudos to each and every male out there that is a "stand up" guy. The one that does what he says he will do, the ones that sit for hours and let their daughters paint their nails or their sons build railroad tracks (or paint their nails too for all I care), and the ones who have owned their "manship".
For those that have made the choice to "dig deep" for a change, I applaud you. I cannot THANK YOU enough!
(Insert thank you darling husband for the AMAZING leaps and bounds you have made in your own life. I LOVE YOU with all my heart and I am so glad I get to enjoy this ride with you!)
It's time for each and every one of us to "grow up" now. The Universe is begging us. And, if we do, nothing shy of miracles start to occur.....
